Trying to pick up attractive women out dancing is so disheartening... I feel like complaining real quick. Oh, and the picture above is from last night, where I was in the dark about how to strike up a little flirtation with new people. See the symbolism?

Backstory: I was just talking to a friend yesterday afternoon about how picking up attractive women, even just flirting with them, is so intimidating. Then, last night, dancing at the Masquerade, I ask to dance with a good-looking girl. Her response is the focus of the rest of this ranting/analyzing post. 

First off, there is usually already a prohibitive buzz around the somebody I'm interested in talking to. That can manifest itself in someone already talking to her. Or her friends could be playing the shield role, as in the situation last night... that whole shield thing is a ploy... meant, understandably sometimes, to avoid over-exposure to unwanted onlookers. But once the shield was broken down, as it was with the small group the girl I approached was a part of, shouldn't there be some space for a respectful hi/hello/how you doin?

Secondly, and this is the kicker, women act rude. I feel like I followed the fairly well-established rules of approaching this woman last night. We were both enjoying dancing in the same room. She was dancing near her two friends but not intimately with either (guy and girl who were most likely a couple). I walk up to this woman and ask her to dance. Her response is to immediately and pointedly shoot a look at her friends and say "we were just leaving" and then scamper off like I had the swine. 

I guess she and I hadn't made eye contact before I approached her. Also, maybe I should have been more casual in the greeting: instead of asking right away to dance, I could have simply asked her name or how she was doin or something. God my game is weak. So maybe I should have guaged things differently and tried for a little of that before approaching. 

But damn! a less rude goodbye wouldn't hurt anybody. 

I understand approaching strangers is never easy. No one would expect to score a number, or even a good dance, at every approach to a woman. But still, the whole process of trying to simply develop a rapport with someone is so exhausting and... annoying, I think is the right word. Especially when women act so damn rude.